How To Escape? Understand, Really Understand, The Rules Of Life. Rule 2

The back-story: the stuff from which many of us would like to escape...

Rule 1: You Can Do Anything, But You Can't Do Everything.

Rule 2: You Need To Be Before You Can Do Before You Can Have

Who you are and who you become will have more long-term impact on your life than what you are doing and planning to do. Your thinking - defines you. It defines your behaviour which in turn of course defines the results which you get. All results which we seek must come from changes in behaviour. But those behaviours and those results will not be sustainable without fundamental ‘who we are’ changes. You can’t consistently perform in a manner that is inconsistent with the way that you fundamentally ‘are’. If you don’t really believe in being healthy, you won’t be healthy. If you don’t take on the complete thinking of a good leader, you won’t be a good leader. No amount of ‘I must’ will do it unless your heart and gut are aligned with your thinking. It is who you are and who you want to be. Make a decision today to develop an empowering mindset. Your past mindset has dictated who you are now. Your new mindset will dictate who you will become.

Jack’s leadership skills left a lot to be desired. Command and control seemed to be his main approach. Not surprisingly it was not motivating, nor empowering to his people and he got lots of feed-back about his poor style. The challenge for Jack was that he was ‘doing’ leadership, he wasn’t ‘being’ a leader. He was ‘doing’ what was in the leadership book. He was holding the team meetings, he was giving objectives. But he was not being a leader. The transformation came when he finally got that point and he decided to be a leader. That impacted in a multitude of subtle ways everything he did: the new sensitivity of his conversations, his values, his investment for the long-term.

You need to be before you can do before you can have.
Each day, read and consider these statements until they become part of your new wiring:
» I have decided to manage my life. » I have decided to manage my own destiny. » I shall do that by adopting a series of empowering mindsets, for example:
» I can create the life I truly want » I can overcome the current apparent obstacles » I have decided to do this by managing my brain, for example:
» By reading more: widely and deeply » By attending more personal development programmes » By regularly asking: how am I doing?
» And above all, by deciding to be who I wish to become.

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