To get the change you seek you'll probably need to break a pattern or two (A pattern? A regular well-established behaviour. Good or bad. E.g. putting sugar in your coffee. Going for a walk at lunch-time. Reading on the train.) To break a pattern you'll need to go through the discomfort e.g. 'learning' a new taste as you dispense with the sugar in your coffee. That's the real barrier isolated: the discomfort. Can you push through that discomfort barrier to get what you want? Can you push through that discomfort barrier to get what you want? Can you push through that discomfort barrier to get what you want? You can. Certainly you can, otherwise we simply become trapped in an old version of ourselves and stop growing.